A Few Words on Relationships

  I have been a bit busy lately and it is a challenge making sure I get everything done but this is the kind of challenge I thrive in. Between working on the business and doing summer research at my college, my plate is rather full.
  So when someone attempted to come back into my life recently, I had to seriously question what I wanted from my personal relationships. Never fear, the husband and I are not getting back together. He likes men as much as I do and I cherish the fact that out of all of it, we are good friends and no, nothing to do with my friend, Tangential either.
  This was a relationship that did not have much substance. So I questioned, very harshly, whether or not I needed this particular relationship at all in my life. I realized that I was over fluff. That some of the things that I was inviting into my life were not good for me.
  I am not sure if I have mentioned before that I am a people pleaser. When you fall into this category, you have to be really careful how you choose your relationships. Then I had a revelation. The last few relationships I had been allowing were taking a lot of unnecessary energy away from me and I was not getting anything in return.
  Don’t get me wrong, relationships require a lot of work but if you are truly passionate about the person of your affection, then it does not really seem like work all the time. But did I really want this in my life at this point?
  Quite simply, no. I have reached the point that I want depth and greater meaning from my relationships, romantic as well as friendships. I may not be financially secure but I am physically, mentally, and emotionally secure.
    Is this a sign of maturity? Maybe, but it is a definitive sign of growth.
  I know what you’re thinking, “well… what do you want?” And the answer is pretty simple. All I ask for is love. That is all most of us ask for, love that can be demonstrated in the form of mutual respect, integrity, and fun. Is it idealized? That would be another resounding maybe. 

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