Give love and be love.

  Love is not an event that should be celebrated once a year but cherished daily. And, as my friend Adrienne Wallace reminds us, all forms of love should be celebrated. I have provided a link to her podcasts. She is one of the many people I credit for on my long walk back to loving myself. Don't be foolish around her though, she will call you out on it! I like being challenged. It means I am learning and growing.
  As we should all like to be challenged when we are not behaving properly or up to snuff. Just as much as you dish it out, you're going to have to learn how to take it! The people who love us will challenge us quite often in our lives. Here is one of the few times I will quote from the Bible, only because it is true in any religion. You know which one I am talking about. The one from 1 Corinthians:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

  Did you notice how I enlarged that? There's a reason why of course. I am Taoist. However, it does not matter if you are atheist or theist to understand that the above is rather important. 

Negativity is easy, love is not.

  It is easy to berate oneself. It is easy to point faults in others. It is far too easy to frown rather than smile. We all need more exercise anyways, smile more often. People love smiles. They feel drawn to you. They can tell when you are faking it. 

Love means that you have a great work ethic.

  Being in any relationship isn't easy. I am not just talking about romantic. I am talking about family and friends. We often think of these relationships as secondary when they are not at all. These are the first relationships that teach us how to relate to one another. A few things I have learned is that if the person likes to get in the last word, let them. If they like hugs, hug them. If they like undivided attention, set a time to give it to them. Because love is not just about you and I hope that you have learned that by this time. It is about you and your connection to everyone. It is learning to develop and maintain it. For Valentine's Day, I wish you continued growth in learning to love. 

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